Confrontation

"There are, then, two ways to confront or criticize another human being: with instinctive and spontaneous certainty that one is right, or with a belief that one is probably right arrived at through scrupulous self-doubting and self-examination. The first is the way of arrogance...the second is the way of humility....

To fail to confront when confrontation is required ... represents a failure to love equally as much as does thoughtless criticism or condemnation and other forms of active deprivation of caring.... Mutual loving confrontation is a significant part of all successful and meaningful human relationships. Without it the relationship is either unsuccessful or shallow."
 

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled